... I really started to think about the “New-Post MLC W and our M” and the direction things have been going, not something I really want to be honest. We talked and I told her this ‘new life’ is not working for me, its not a M, not one I wanted anyways. We talked .. and I explained we cannot ‘work’ on the M when its not being put 1st over other priorities … there was a good deal of backlash … she even spewed a bit, tossed out the ‘Controlling-rant” I stayed calm. I expressed I support her and her new endeavors, even went further to let her know I accept the “New her” but pointed out how she is spreading herself thin as it is … and our M is nowhere near ‘fixed’, reminded her it will take work, and it is going to be hard …. Bottom line I do not want to be in a relationship with anyone who is to busy to build a new life together. I point blank asked her what she wanted, what her priorities were … those are her choices, her desires … I then asked her based on her actions if they line up. I then shared that I needed some time, because I did not feel that her priorities and mine matched up … not that they need to but I need time to decide if I can accept them and her … I then took S to his game.
Great job Caliguy on calling your W on her busyness to avoid dealing with the issues in your marriage. That took courage. I like the story of your moving your chair halfway at s's baseball game. A good visual picture of what you wanted from W.
Thank you for sharing your struggles. It helps me.
