A little more: I seriously think that my family's actions are going to negatively impact chances of reconciliation. One thing that she firmly believes in is family, especially considering the home life that she grew up in where that lifestyle was non-existent. There is also her mental state, where such negative comments and actions play into her mind. She loves my family and I just feel that their actions would push her even further away. Heck, they de-friended on social media, and any nice comments from my W about my family on that site go un-recognized - and my W still comments/likes things they post.
I know that maybe I shouldn't, but I am going to repeat the talk I had with her the other day. I just feel that if we do work, it is in our best interest as a family to move somewhere else and start life anew. There is work readily available in both of our career fields, so that isn't an issue. Things may be tight, but living here near my family is toxic. I just don't see how their negative attitudes towards her can be so easily forgotten and forgiven if we do reconcile. My family holds grudges. Maybe it is just best to move and start over, but she so desperately wants our kids to have a family life outside of our own.
This whole thing is just killing me! I am so sickened by my own family's behavior. Yes, my W and I are on the verge of D, but there may also be a chance of reconciliation - and that chance is all I have.
Last edited by 11OCT; 09/29/1503:53 PM.
There are moments in this life when you are so confident in the rightness of your actions, that not even for a second do you consider the option that you might be wrong.
