Saying something would cause her to become defensive and angry at me.
It shouldn't be about not wanting to cause her to become defensive and angry at you. That should not be your guide, IMO. I'm not saying you should just try to pi$$ her off. You're right, it wouldn't be effective........but don't make the choice b/c you don't want her angry at you.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
