Parents: help me parenting while separated (2)

[MrBond]

Just a few things I've noticed about your recent sitch.

"Then the best part came, when STBXW told: "When I married you I thought it would be forever, but people change."
This made me sick but I was able to control myself."

So you felt disgusted by her saying this. Why? She's right after all. Just because it's a change that YOU don't want, doesn't make her thinking wrong.

"Being passive will only increase this feeling of being violated and disrespected."

In what way have you been "passive"? That's just a matter of opinion. You fought for your marriage so you weren't passive. You fought for what you believe in.

What I've seen in your posts is that although you say that you "understand" your W, and what got her here, your words say otherwise.