Thanks Mowgli, I don't know if I am a good role model but thanks for saying so. You are right in saying it is probably easier if W just left.EEach situation is different and the type of pain/emotions felt vary. It is lonely and being so close yet so far is tough. I follow your situation and will post soon, but I fear impatience and pushing are what you need tobe wary of.

I'll update soon

R 25 years
M 14 years
S11 & S13
Working on it alone since Oct 2014
M in trouble a lot earlier (~2 years)
Feb 2016. 1st R chat in a yr.
Next R chat Aug'17
Still together