Hi Clay. Just finding your story now. Haven't read your entire sitch yet so sorry if you have mentioned this before....just wondering how your kids are doing during this time, has your W walked away from them?
Hi JPeg,
Very difficult to explain and if you see my original post, you will see that some people jumped all over me asking "what did you do". The reason I explained things the way I did , is because I have spent the last 18 years apologizing in order to make peace with someone who does not apologize and have done so even more inn the last year since she left and have finally gotten tired of it. My post was not in any way intended to disparage my wife. I love her very much, but become frustrated when I am always wrong.
I believe there is a possibility she is going through a MLC (and I believe has been since she was about 18-19), but we had a MC/Psych who told me she didn't think it was a MLC because she has these personality issues. I do think though there is a possibility that it is a MLC, but there is much more to it. My WAW has done quite a bit for me, but has (IMO) had one foot out the door during our entire marriage because she is rarely content with what she has.
As mentioned earlier, she told me last week, she has manipulated many people in her life to get what she wanted. I was shocked, as I have never heard her say anything like that. That was a huge step for her.
She still wants to go through with the divorce, as she said it is what she needs right now in order to feel like she is on her own, but that it is only paper, indicating that there is a possibility of a relationship now and in the future and to not worry about the symbolism of the certificate. She goes back and forth though, but we have been getting along better since we had that talk.
Many who know her, including me, think that she will not begin to grow and change until she moves out of her parents' house, but she said she might just stay there.
Not sure if I provided enough information, as there is so much to tell. I am not big on writing and trying to explain myself and my feelings on a computer screen.
