Need advice for a WW who left Part 4

[dwh15]

you are a very strong man, hang in there buddy. I am also going through a dilemma with my WW and daughters. My wife left the house and opted to live in a woman shelter with my 3 yr old and 8 month old. What a selfish act, to place my daughters in those situations. Now I am in the middle of filing for full 100 percent custody of those girls in order to get them out from that awful place. Take a look at my thread and give me some advise.

A shelter? That's just awful man. I'll read up on your sitch and give some thoughts.

So I had to go through tonight and fill out a bunch of court documents for tomorrow. Nothing like breaking down 24 years of history together with a person you loved into a business transaction. It's just so cold. I got through it but this whole D process has really whittled away most of my leftover feelings of love for WW. I've come to realize that even though I will always have some love for her deep in my heart, I cannot see ever being with her again.

The further out I get from DDay, and start to objectively see what she's done, it makes me lose all respect for the person she has become. This wasn't a brief lapse in judgement. WW calculated against me and lied for years to cover up her alternate reality. And it wasn't just limited to me. I'm finding out that she has lied to just about anyone close to her, including most of her friends and family, and not just about her multiple affairs. She lies to gain advantage, or use people to get what she wants.

That, combined with the utter lack of any compassion for me at all, and very little for her own children, has caused me to re-evaluate her as a person, and I don't like what I see. I honestly do hope that something in her life hits her hard enough that it starts to bring her out of the fog, or awakens the person she used to be. But I believe that day will be a very long time coming, if ever. At that point, maybe the two of us could be friends, but I no longer even hope for it. She is someone that I would not even choose to be around, except for the fact that we share 4 children.

It's a very sad realization for me, and sad for my boys. When I talk about their mother with them, I try to focus on the more distant past, before she transformed into this selfish being, and was a beautiful, caring, compassionate woman. Those are times I can think about and smile. I will never regret the years we spent together, or the 4 beautiful children we created out of that time. In fact, those 4 kids are now my driving force in life and mean more to me than anything. But I do wish things could have turned out differently. I can only keep doing my best to improve, and hope that life has a plan in store, and one day this will all just be a distant, sad chapter.