As someone reading in, to me your situation seems to be one of the most hopeful stories I have come across. There seems to be a lot of passion and love between the two of you. The problems seem to be that you are both afraid of getting hurt and are thus doing anything you can to protect yourselves, instead of each other. You are still posting here, so I am assuming it's because on some level you want things to work? what are some of the benefits that there would be with reconciliation? how would you feel at this point if she truly moved on?
I wouldn't go that far and say we can't work past our issues for fear of being hurt. It's kind of funny. Since our separation we have both been heading for the same goals. New careers, both work out, both spend more time with the kids, both want to go to same places on vacations, etc. Yet we are still different.
I would be fine if she moved on. I think there would be a ping of sadness, but at the end of the day I think it would be fine.
Me: 38 W: 32 S10 D6 T: 10 (02/2004) M: 7 (12/2007) Separation 02/2015 OM confirmed 01/2015, D mentioned 12/2014 D finalized 9/2016
