...I badly want to the M to be fixed but also know it is unrealistic in many ways...
Those are just your thoughts WhyUs, they are not fact. You can change them if you want to and no I am not talking about going all Pollyanna I'm saying you can think differently if you choose to, beware of self-fulfilling prophecies.
Originally Posted By: WhyUs
... I am fine now with the M ending but I also love W. The thing I have to remind myself is that it is W that I am in love with, not WW. W is long gone now and was replaced by WW who I do not know or love...
This is a great mindset. You don't know if you truly don't love her, that part of your affection is packed away, but that doesn't mean it has ceased to exist.
Originally Posted By: WhyUs
...I desperately want to change WW back to W. However, from what I pick up on these boards, that is not going to happen and I will find myself in a world of her waiting for it to happen or trying to make it happen...
By continuing to work on yourself, you will learn to accept this and can then decide for yourself, where you stand and what you are going to do, at the moment it is stated in the manner of a self-fulfilling prophecy. It will change if you keep up the work.
- Nobody has ever learnt anything important from happiness and success; problems make us grow - Consult your plan, not your feelings - If you haven't set goals, how can you expect to achieve anything?
