I don't know what to do anymore. I feel pretty good about myself and the changes im making. I just cant get the W to believe that her actions are causing a lot of turmoil in our house. No matter what comes out of my mouth or how it comes out, she will not agree with me on anything. Its not just me either. She does the same with anyone who disagrees with her actions. This includes her family.
Is there anything more I can do to make her understand that no matter the outcome everyone around will suffer from her actions to some degree?
Tkd Read your post ... Here is the thing, when a person is wayward there is no talking 'sense' into them... The fact she is making decisions you do not agree with, doing things out of your control is a tough hurdle to get over... Obviously her actions are going to cause damage .... She is not thinking about that right now, only that it took her some time to have the guts to do this and now that she has it feels good, so that must make it right.... The more you fight it, the more she will rebel. You can not force her to look in the mirror, that will only happen once she reaches a point where what she is doing no longer brings her joy, the fog is thick and she can't see the mirror nor the damage she is causing ... You and your flashlight will not help either.
As hard as the bed wetting, my S8 wet the bed once, at the time I didn't think it was because of the crisis, now looking back ... Probably was, thankfully I handled it like a father should, with love and understanding... Treated it as no big deal, washed the sheets and moved on. He always opened up to me and we talked about everything ... Still do... But be careful of that pulpit, being that guy of "look what you are doing to the children" and painting her to be the bad person ... She may very well be one, but casting blame and judgement is not going to help your cause is it? That approach will send her further... You do not have to shout to her she is a great mother, but do not imply the opposite either ... Try to stay in the middle, quiet and calm, the rock
