Heavy, she is trying to put on a show. You are being more authentic, if people are drawn to the show, that is their problem.
I am also an introvert, and when H was spewing at me he seriously and very cruelly criticized my social skills. I realize now that my social skills are actually better than his. Yes, he might do better at a party putting on a show, but my connections to people are genuine and people respond well to me.
Try not to get into her mind so much, you'll never figure her out. Keep your focus on yourself and your children, as it sounds like you have been doing. You are doing so well, and you do have a lot to be grateful for. Hang in there, Heavy.
