Let him know it's time for him to move out. Tell him this isn't working for you any more. Let him know that he can come get his stuff up until a date in two weeks time. After that, you'll pack it up and have it delivered to him.

Overcom, why do you want to stay so close to someone when it is causing you such misery right now? Have you read any information on codependency? Many posters recomment Codependent no more and there is an associated work book too. If you think about what you can control - you don't get to control H's poor behaviour - but you do get to control whether you are in contact with him and whether you spend time with him.

Please try and take some steps yourself to improve your own wellbeing and put in place some healthy boundaries. H may not look after you just now, but you can look after yourself.

Take care xx

T 13 M 7
Me 48 H 46
SS 15
BD 7.14 PA
D final 5.16 (H filed)

We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus