Lou, I'm sorry to hear that and I can understand all that you are saying. I also ask that question....is it truly worth it???

I can understand your disappointment, given his recent contact. And I can also understand that you feel some contact on your anniversary was 'the least he could do.'

Arghh - I have nothing else much to offer - other than good thoughts and best wishes. You did well not to send a snarky note to him. And it sounds like a good idea to make your own plans for your time off.

The long and rocky road warnings are truly there for a reason. But we all get to decide ultimately what we do. My feeling FWIW is that there have been some glimmers of hope from your H recently. But if he can't manage this, he is still pretty foggy I suspect.

Anyway, take care of yourself. Make some lovely plans and leave H be for now xx

T 13 M 7
Me 48 H 46
SS 15
BD 7.14 PA
D final 5.16 (H filed)

We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus