I think you did good with standing up to your W. You gave her a consequence for her not wanting you as her H. Because of her actions , she is asked to come up with a separation agreement. I have yet to ask that but it is a matter of time. I too did the bank changing thing. W was not happy but it is another consequence. As long as she is not willing to work on the M, I am sure there will be more.
Good work
Me late 30's W mid 30's T 15, M 10 S4, S7 ILYBNILWY June 2015 In house S July 2015 W rings off Oct 2015 My ring off Feb 2015 Separate houses June 2016