They talked about the importance of making your bed every day to start the day. It's like a ritual. I shared with the group that I have not made my bed since bomb drop - a year ago. That is like a metaphore of the chaos going on inside my head for the past year.
Today, I made my bed, and yes, it felt good and gave me a sense of accomplishment. Yes, it was small, but it has added to the pile of things that I can control and feel good about doing.
Anyone not doing any 12 step program, I highly encourage it. It's free and there ae meetings daily and you can attend as many as you want. It is not relevant to the "probleM' alcoho, drugs, sex addition, etc... it's about how YOU deal with it and how to control YOUR emotion around it. I learned to take the higher view - helicopter view. That allows me to step away "the problem" and view it from above, DETACHED. This is also known as giving the situation to God.
