loaded question about getting closer to the goal. I know we all found this place trying to sort out a way to get our spouse back. We are told that we need to detach, gal, and set goals for ourselves. If my ultimate end goal with doing all of this is to somehow get my W back and i have not abandoned that goal along with creating others for myself then i do not know if it had or not.
I know it has helped me let go a little bit more than i was because i voiced some things that i have been afraid to. I was afraid to rock her boat and was putting myself second.
Do you think that this might be because your goal is too vague or too big? MWD talks about making a 30 foot putt in DR - you dont aim for the hole, you aim for a place 5 ft away. I think the biggest reason to do is is that you will be able to take these measured steps. You will KNOW if you are closer or farther away.
So think of it this way. Your "hole" may be restoring your marriage. One step to do that might be to remove the fear you have of disagreeing with your wife. In that case, this may have gotten you closer to THAT goal, which, in turn, gets you closer to the hole. Make sense?
