OK, so let me ask you a question because i feel very confused at times like this. I at first thought you didnt think i should have spoke to my wife, then i felt you thought i should have with the gambling analogy, now i feel the opposite again!!
I dont really know if you should or shouldnt have done it. What I am saying is that the way this works for me is that you set goals, and do what gets you closer to them. Sometimes, doing nothing is better than doing something. Sometimes not.
Without really understanding your overall goals, and what you were trying to "achieve" with this discussion, it's hard to really assess whether or not you should have done it. Looking back, do you think you are closer or farther from your goal? That should tell you all you need to know about whether this was a beneficial conversation.
Sorry for any confusion. Im really not trying to be cryptic!
