this is the part that is messing with me. I am telling myself that i am only doing these things because i am standing for my marriage and i am doing the right thing to try and save it. then i think back and say I cant save this, it has to be her or god.
Here's how I think about this. Pretend you're playing blackjack and got dealt a 16 with the dealer showing a 7. You've bet your life savings on the hand. Now what do you do?
If you hit you win on average 30% of the time and lose 70%.
If you stand you will on average win 26% and lose 74%.
So you might as well hit right? You're likely going to lose either way, but you do what gives you the best chance of winning.
This isn't the BEST example, because I don't think this situation is a win/loss proposition. But my point is that you do what gets you closer to your goals. Even with long odds, all we can do is what gives is the best chance for the good outcome.
