Then he called me and He came home and served the papers. He and ow fought and I said don't serve me out of anger he took the papers back.
Im not sure when this was (yesterday? or last month?). Anyway, theres nothing to fear, overcom. Dont try to control him or it will only make things worse. He's confused, he's hurting. Just let him do what he's going to do. The legal stuff is the legal stuff, and it really doesnt matter much. Youre already essentially divorced, all the papers do is tell the government that.
Originally Posted By: overcom
He is so blind I can't help him anymore. She's known for messing things up and he gives her chance after chance and NOT ONCE did he give me a chance to fix me. Anyway I am fixing myself. For me.
He is giving you the chance RIGHT NOW to fix you. If you had stayed in the same marriage for another 5 years, would it have mattered? If he said, "Overcom, Im tired of you leaving your socks on the floor," Im sure you would have picked them up for a few weeks, a couple months, maybe a year, but eventually, the changes would revert. Before, you would have been doing it for him. NOW, you know, and you can do this correctly. For YOU. For your kids.
