Hi Elly, I am sorry I did not respond to you question earlier, I have been distracted and not on my game. You had asked me how I deal with my wife's silent treatment. I have accepted that she has her issues, she is going to IC and because of this she does not want to talk to me.
As an academic exercise it is not so hard to deal with, this is where she is, show I show her compassion. On the other hand, emotionally I equate it with inconsiderate, ill mannered, cruel and rude behavior. I am hurt, feeling pain and sorrow when she does this to me. It hurts more when one of our kids or the dog comes in the room and "happy wife" appears for them.
I guess part of your question is how do I manage my emotional reaction to her behavior. I acknowledge my feelings but let them go, understanding that this behavior is linked to her struggle. Some days are harder then others but I try to treat her with the love in my heart.
So my plan is to keep treating her with loving kindness and compassion. I will put my feelings aside and be supportive of my wife. Hopefully this will work out in my favor, if not I still did the right thing by her.
If she come down with laryngitis I'll never know.
Anytime the silence is getting to you, give me a holler.
