I care about my wife more than anything. I know what you mean.
Do you want to be back with her? I know you mentioned that you are not sure earlier. What is the sign that you are waiting for and how do you know she is just temp checking rather than being sincere? How can she prove it to you? I am asking to learn. Reading your thread, reminds a lot of previous break ups with my wife (gf then) and I obviously did not learn enough. If my wife were sending me those types of signals, I would definitely crumple.
Honestly, Pinn... I do not know if I want her back. There has been so much damage, lies, hurt and foulness between us over the last year. I don't know if I can get over it or ever trust her.
As for proving it, I have given her a list a long time ago of what she would have to do to prove it that she wants a future with me. It was right before she left. The list has things like losing one of her longterm friends (girl is a bad influence, goes to the bar with an overnight bag). That she would have to be open and honest. Things like that.
As for temp checking, I was out of town for the weekend with the kids and my sorta-girlfriend along with her daughter. The WW showed up uninvited to my house to see the kids. She made a comment about us moving away together or something, to just get my reaction. In the end I just dismissed it and kept moving forward with the conversation. She is used to me jumping to spend time with her, talk to her, etc. That is the old me. The new me is quite happy with my life.
Me: 38 W: 32 S10 D6 T: 10 (02/2004) M: 7 (12/2007) Separation 02/2015 OM confirmed 01/2015, D mentioned 12/2014 D finalized 9/2016
