PP 2.0 - PigPen & The WAW (7)

[asitis]

Sorry you struggled after being served, but glad you were so resilient. On the dog swaps, what do you think you could do now that you know that you have this couple day hangover?

One thought that comes to mind is not to think of these as your only opportunities to interact and DB w/ your W. You not pursuing her is DBing. You giving her time & space is DBing. You putting so much on those short interactions, is not DBing. Besides, you don't know you won't get more chances down the road. So not making so much of those times may help change both your perspective and the costs.

Another is that you seem let down that you appear to be so good in those interactions that you want more and are hurt that she doesn't. There are a couple things to keep in mind. One is that she is also working hard to make it less painful for you but that doesn't mean she doesn't have her her own fears, pains, and issues that make her very wary of getting back involved with you beyond that (sorry for the double negative). The other is that while being polite is good, play acting in hope that she will see the light and give you want you want isn't going to likely work. So, don't be phony about it. If you aren't feeling like you are being honest to yourself, don't hold yourself to keep acting a way because you think it will make a difference. Again, I'm not saying being rude, but if you are feeling like you are pushing yourself to be something you aren't feeling it will likely bite you in the end, and it would explain some of the post-swap let down.

Third, have someone you can talk to lined up to do something with shortly after the swaps. This could be scheduling IC for later in the day or the next day, or having a friend over for dinner. Dogs are wonderful therapy, but they are lousy conversationalists when you really need someone to talk to.

Anyway, what you are currently doing doesn't seem to be working for you, so experiment with things to figure out what can help you get through those couple days more.