Clay,
I wanted to come over here to your thread and post my reply to your inquiry about resources for women in MLC.

"Clay,
There are other forums out there that address the issue of MLC for women, but you'll need to "google" for them. We aren't allowed to post them here.

Whether she worked or stayed home, the bottom line is that she feels that she missed something along the way. She has some childhood issues that need to be resolved and until she resolves them, she'll continue in crisis.

Technically, the resources would be the same and the DB techniques would apply. No matter what you find in the way of research, there is no brass ring that will wake her up and bring her back to you. You have to still allow her to go through her crisis and if she begins to reconnect, then you'll need to be patient."

As I have suggested previously on my thread, you should create a thread in the MLC Forum, whereby others will post directly to you and you can then follow your situation and see the progress that you are making along the way.