The book of Lou - Chapter 4

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Hi Lou, thanks for your post on my thread - really gave me a boost this morning - especially as I had just read all of your threads. Wow - it has been quite a journey for you. I think what is happening isn't H's issue as such. He is progressing through the crisis just as you would think he will. He is giving positive messages and then retreating a little only to come back a little stronger and so on.

I think the problem comes at our end when our expectations get raised. He said he would contact me on Y and he didn't. I want more signs from him and so on. It's maybe good to remember that when he isn't in touch, he is most likely processing - and processing is good!

You know already that reconnection is never likely to be a fanfare and firewors thing - because most MLCers have become pretty broken by recent events and remain in some turmoil. They only have so much to give and only sometimes too.

So, for the other times it is really important to remember that you are your own woman with your own plans. Also remember that he feels the biggest thing you did (or didn't do..) was leave him be when he really needed it. I'm sure there will be times when he really needs that still.

Anyway, I think you are doing well and I'm sure you will come up with some nice plans to improve your bleuugh day. Thanks for being an inspiration to me on the forum and take care xx