Overcome, I want you to know without a doubt that your size has nothing to do with your ability to be loved, to be good in bed, and to be desired. Your confidence has a lot to do with that, not your size.
Yes, go to a gym, yes, eat well, because these things are good for your health and will improve your ability to cope with stress, disease, and build your confidence. But its the confidence that is sexy.
Whatever is attracting your H to this druggie is so superficial and is a reflection of the fact that there is something wrong with him, not you. There is NOTHING wrong with you. Sure, go ahead and lose some weight. Do it for YOU. Do it so your kids have a healthier mom. Do not do it because of what your stupid MLC H is rebelling and thinking with his dick. Honestly, you are too good for him. You can do so much better. And I think you will.
He took the ow to a pool party to OUR friends house. I had a big fight with him amd he's like I should move out amd left. I called him told him his things were ready for him to get out. He's like you move out and ya so we had a fight and now he's out at a pool party enjoying his night while I'm sitting at home crying my eyes out!!!
Me 34 H 33 Married 2006 S5 D2 BD Jan 2015 EA/PA He moved out 2/2/2015 Came back 5/2015 Filed divorce papers 8/21/2015
I'm so sorry. I know how that hurts. My H also took his OW out tonight introducing them as the new "us". Hearing himsay "we" wil be there - to invitations - that is twisting the knife - they are now a "we" and I am home alone.
:'( I know how you feel. She introduces him to everyone as her hubby... amd her kid as his kid. Jpeg need to catch up on your sitch. It's worse then knife twisting. It makes me sick to my stomach
Me 34 H 33 Married 2006 S5 D2 BD Jan 2015 EA/PA He moved out 2/2/2015 Came back 5/2015 Filed divorce papers 8/21/2015
Hi Overcom, try not to feel so sick about that - because it's actually just 'sad.' What kind of person tries to pass someone else's H as their own and someone elses child as his too....that's just.....a little bizarre. And it says a great deal about OW I think. I don't believe a woman with healthy self esteem and self respect would do this.
I suspect you are already the better woman Overcom - but like us all you have things you'd like to work on and good luck with those. Staying close to this sitch with H and OW will not help you at all, so try and distance from it as much as you can. If you can co-parent with dim contact and no R talk, that may be best for now I think.
Good luck xx
T 13 M 7 Me 48 H 46 SS 15 BD 7.14 PA D final 5.16 (H filed)
We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus
