Hi Anna, you could always get a further legal opinion if you are unsure about the first L you saw. It does sound as though your H may need a reality check about finances. But it is a tightrope between you being seen as an authority figure, and needing to protect your interests. I don't know the answer there - but creating as much security as possible for you and your kids is paramount. Hopefully that will be in the same house. But if your H truly wants to S, and if your house were relatively expensive for example, moving may become a reality - I don't know.

Anyway, it sounds as though you are doing well - engaging with some difficult reality - and managing to DB at the same time. Are you still extending yourself with GAL too?

T 13 M 7
Me 48 H 46
SS 15
BD 7.14 PA
D final 5.16 (H filed)

We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus