Time to let go.....How? (2)

[asitis]

Remember, it is not a game. If you don't feel like something, don't make statements and moves you aren't sure you can keep up. It's better not to declare something and stick to your decision than it is to declare it, regret it and back track.

It feels like from the way you wrote this that you are still play acting to manipulate her. That won't work. It is just a flip side of trying to show her you are a good enough H. It has to be that you are ready to move ahead. Really ready. You'll know when that is. In the meantime do GAL activities certainly. But just do them. Try not to make a big deal about them. When you can get comfortable with doing them without thinking about how you will present it to her or use it to provoke a reaction in her that you will be ready to detach more fully and you may see some eventual movement from her.

I know it's confusing. I went through the same phase. It took about a month before I was able to drop the game aspect of things and truly drop the rope of trying to manipulate my W into changing.