Time to let go.....How? (2)

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So just made a big move and not sure how I am feeling.

She went out last night as did I for the first time in a while. She constantly tried to find out when I would be home so she could let the babysitter know. I dodged the question a few times and finally told her to just let her know when you would be home and if I get there earlier then great. I made sure to get home after her! She did not seem happy.

So I take kids out with me today and just stay busy. Came home and talking to kids about dinner. Went to ask W and she said that she may not be home. She is going to go to the girls house she went out with last night. At first I was just going to walk away and say ok but for some reason my courage built up and I calmly turned to her and asked if she had any paperwork done regarding separation for me. She said she was working on it. I said ok well I think it needs to get done. I then informed her about the bank account that I fund that she has access to and I am only putting a certain amount in and it needs to be for kids and groceries. I told her she needs to stop spending on herself out of it. She said she doesn't so I gave her a few examples. I told her that she doesn't want me to be her husband it is not my responsibility to support her. She said well I take care of your kids. I wanted to say not even close to the amount of time you should but I just said that I pay all the bills and put food in the house. That is all I will do. I then found a way to tell her about the kids not being happy with her actions. She tried denying it. I told her take it how you want but there are problems.

She then asked what I wanted to do about the house. I told her my plan is to try and find a way to keep it for the kids stability. I told her they are the most important thing. That is why I am doing everything with them because there will be times I don't see them as much.
I then told her you seem happy and the only thing holding her back is not finishing this. I told her it is what it is I tried for a long time and it didn't work. I am going to move on, I will be successful, I will do great in life.

She looked stunned to me but just kept saying ok. I am a mess inside right now but I stood strong and was polite.
I feel like I gained some power back in my life even though it is hurting me.