Hello my friend - good to hear from you. Sounds like you have been mega busy lately. Hope you still found some time for a little GAL. Yes, I'm with you on the sense of peace - that things will work out well whichever way. I do think many people lay good foundations on this forum and that's the main thing. I also think we have to take the 'long view' in any decisions we make. I want to know that 2,3,5 years down the line I look back and was happy with my part at this point.
Sorry things are a little fraught with your W. We've refused to pay H's legal costs. I imagine you could do the same - but your L will advise I'm sure. H told me his L quoted up to �66k for her to provide input on a contested D. She is a London L - but gosh!!
As for the coparenting. Will it help to write a letter? I think a letter almost always never helps. Because the fact of writing a letter just adds to the fraughtness. IDK - has it ever helped when you have written a letter before?? If you can discuss, that would be best - but I would keep it topic based and not try and deal with the overall coparenting situation. Eg: parents evening is coming up. I plan to go from 6-7 and I'm going to make the appts. Do you want to join me or see teachers separately? Just so you know what you're doing.
Also bear in mind that things are probably going to be a little tense for a little while yet, but should settle down in time. As for optimistic friend....I like her! Who knows what will happen Jim?? I'll tell you what though - OM may be trying to be super-step-dad just now - but he can only keep that up for so long before the cracks start to show. I have never been sorry to be a step parent - but boy I found it tough sometimes!!
Glad to hear you're doing okay anyway. Take care xx
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We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus
