do you think i would be harassing if i get my lawyer in order to exercise my rights as a father and apply child support on myself? I have a feeling she will be filing child support soon and most likely a police report for following her. I just want to cover my back with a lawyer and my rights.
Definitely get legal advice on this. If you get an L because she is keeping the kids from you there is no telling the what L may suggest. He/She may suggest getting an emergency protective order to gain custody of the kids until a hearing. In this case it would be silly to pay child support.
Obviously, if you are working all this time this may not be an option. Would you be able to take paid leave from work if this were to happen? There are a lot of things the L would need to know.
Also, the L will tell you when to start paying child support. Does W have access to your accounts. How is she paying for things right now? If she is in a women's shelter and everything is paid why would she need child support? Will she say she is in the shelter because you cut her off? There are a lot of issues that the L will know how to handle.
Me: 30's W: 30's M: 12yrs EA: Started 3/2015 MC Started: 4/2015 She moved out and served 6/2015 PA: Confirmed 10/5/2015 2 young kids
"If you do not stand for something you will fall for anything."
we i just left the meeting with my L. After i told her all the incident that have occurred , her going to the extreme of living in a women shelter , her threatening to get off the car while i was driving on the freeway , her getting off the car in a ghetto neighborhood and deciding to walk away crying while i follow her in my truck with the kids in the back seat , her going bizarre for being 18 min late when picking her up , her dropping the baby from the bed cause she fell asleep. The L concluded we a strong 90% chance the judge will favor me over 100% custody while she gets help and pays me child support. I am in the middle, i either go forward with the L and let my W i mean business when it comes to my kids, or i give my wife time while she lives in the shelter and puts me on child support and what not and finds herself an apt.
If it were me I would listen to the advice of your L. W does not seem to be in a healthy place right now. If you do get 100% custody you need to make it 100 % clear to W that you want her in the kids life and that she is welcome to see them. Obviously you need to feel comfortable that she will not harm them. Their safety comes first and foremost. Just resist any urge to use the children to control her. Good luck
Me: 30's W: 30's M: 12yrs EA: Started 3/2015 MC Started: 4/2015 She moved out and served 6/2015 PA: Confirmed 10/5/2015 2 young kids
"If you do not stand for something you will fall for anything."
well we would argue on my responsibilities in the house. Why do i forget to sometimes take out the trash. Why havent i showered the damn chihuahua. Why is the water house not in its place instead of just thrown in the yard. Why does she always have to remind me what to do. Just like she pushes me why cant i push her? According to her me working doesnt mean anything because she works too at home by taking care of the kids but when i come home it becomes my responsibility to watch them as well and not use it as if i was helping her or doing something for her. She was a stay at home job which meant just that, a stay at home mom only , washing and cleaning was extra and a luxury for me. If I didnt keep up with my responsibilities than why would she need to do the bed or cook etc? I spend too little time with her and the kids, she alwasy has to be the one who initiates everything she feels like im just another big kid. She doesnt feel sorry that i work everyday because i brought to myself for going to school like she suggested in the beginning. I work monday through friday in an office being operations manager for a trucking company. I gt paid 60k a year that wasnt cutting it for her. She told me she would leave me if i didnt figure out our money situtation. I decided to work doing roofing work , yup on the weekend i would go on the roof of a house to install roof on this houston 106F weather. She said she didnt feel sorry for me because i brought this on myself and these are my consequences. She says that I always forget things like the trash, dishes, washing the dog , therefore i am not reliable and if im not reliable with my responsibilities than im not reliable with our girls and our relationship. This whole meltdown started when I was suppose to pick her up from her moms house at 4pm in order to head to a kids party. We were at her moms at 2pm and i told her i would be meeting up with a friend to talk about a small business and i advised her I would be back right at 4. Well guess what? I was back at 4:18 pm i was 18 min late. She blew up as to why i was late, why didnt I even txt her i was running late. I alwasy manage to screw up her plans therefore i am selfish and unreliable. She was crying so much and was so angry that she proceeded to get off the truck while i was at a stop light and walked down the sidewalk next to the freeway. i pleaded for her to get in the car since i had the girls in the back seat. Eventually she got back on the car but 10 min in the drive she screamed again that she wanted to get off the car keep in mind im on the freeway now. well i had to exit since i had fear she would get off on the freeway.i stopped at a cross street and she walked off the car and just walked away to a park. I couldnt be following her my car so i had to call her mom to help me out since i had the girls in the back seat. Finally her mom came and after 30 min of looking for her we found her and took her home. She ddint talk to me since that date and 2 weeks after she left the house and this happen.
