Thank you shotgun. I know it's hard to get out but you might just start small. Have dinner with a friend. I find myself this Friday night with nothing social to do. I have lots of house projects but don't feel like it right now. I am trying to find a balance between staying occupied and over scheduling. Both make me equally cranky.
I recently posted a summary of my sitch on my thread if you'd like to read it.
Me53 H48 M 13 No children together BDMay '15 PA June '15 H moves out,files 8/15 wants "quick divorce" but does nothing Me sending proposal 12/15, court dates upcoming
Beckyb I read some of your thread and I'm sorry to say but your story is so familiar. It seems as if we all tell the same story. There has to be a strong evolutionary element to what a WAS does. It is also interesting to me how effective MWD techniques are in dealing with them. It all points to this being human nature. I wish that I could be helpful to you and I want to offer you all the encouragement and prayers that I can. Welcome to the Lonely Hearts Club and stay in touch.
M:53 W:47 M:15 years. S:18 S's: 30 & 28 from previous marriage. BD: 3/14 Divorced January 17.
Rouky and Avanti I got myself out of the house tonight. S13 was with his mom so I started texting friends and family to see who would let me hang with them. Had several offers and decided to go with a sister and her husband. Had a good evening and it felt good to be out. Made some plans for other GAL activities so I'm seeing how a small step can build into a life.
I feel like I have regressed a good bit in the last few weeks. At this moment I am fine but the last two weeks have been my worst yet. I want to be as strong as you Rouky and I feel like I will be when I get through the uncertainty of the next month or so. Also getting healthy physically should help me mentally.
Having a couple of shots of Bird Dog blackberry whisky in honor of my good friend and must say it is quite nice! Here's to you Rouky.
M:53 W:47 M:15 years. S:18 S's: 30 & 28 from previous marriage. BD: 3/14 Divorced January 17.
Here's to you Shotgun. See it wasn't that difficult :-). I think the first step is the hardest, but once you get going you can't stop. I like going out once a week, and would have missed it if I hadn't gone out last night (even on my own as I did something I liked).
Enjoy your weekend with your boy. You both deserve to have loads of fun :-)
Glad you took that step shotgun. The next one is to make it a habit and you are on that already.
Keep it going, you really are moving in the right direction.
- Nobody has ever learnt anything important from happiness and success; problems make us grow - Consult your plan, not your feelings - If you haven't set goals, how can you expect to achieve anything?
Thank you so much for checking on me Rouky. It is so reassuring to know that I have a friend out there who really cares. I am doing better the last three days. I think the Prozac was making me very depressed. I cannot remember ever being so down as I was for a couple of weeks. I am continuing to take it however and I do think that I have turned a corner. I want so much to find peace in my situation but I am struggling to do that. I am doing a little better with detachment. It is all so shocking to see the person that I loved so much turn into a person whom I do not recognize. I wish that someone could explain to me how it happens that the person that I have known for sixteen years could totally re-write history and blame me for every problem in the marriage. Some time away from her has helped me more clearly see the history of relationship. I think that will happen for her as well at some point.
No movement on the D front as I am still gathering financial information and waiting on W to do so. I have done a better job with setting boundries and am seeing some positive results from that.
Had a great weekend with S13 and took him to a shooting range. It was so fun to see him be successful and his self esteem soar. Also got to expose him to the fantastic people that are around those ranges. Those guys and ladies have been such a source of strength during the last year.
My biggest current struggle is in keeping up with my housework. I was so efficient during my marriage but have really let things go around the house. I think that I need to do some planning to get myself back on track. Would appreciated any advice in that regard.
Had a great weekend with GAL activities but I need to make that a regular thing and hopefully my depression will be better and I will get out there. Still working out and doing yoga and running. Not quite up to the 5k that has been my goal for nine months.
As for my health I feel pretty good and my ability to taste sweet that had been missing for so long is now showing signs of returning. I think being able to have a little ice cream will help me to gain some weight!
Love hearing from you Rouky and I hope that some others who read this will chime in. Just can't have too many friends these days. I love you all, God Bless!
M:53 W:47 M:15 years. S:18 S's: 30 & 28 from previous marriage. BD: 3/14 Divorced January 17.
Shotgun just been reading your sitch what you say about the person you have known and loved for 16 years many of us can relate to this statement I know I can
When they change they become someone who is unrecognisable
I said to my w a few weeks ago I MISS US NOT BEING TOGETHER her words back to be ......see I don't ......THAT HURT !
take good care of yourself
Ghost
Me:48 W 41 M:18 T:26 2 D 18 & 4 2 S 17 & 13 Bomb: 20/7/2015 in house separation D filed 06/17 Separate houses 10/17 D Final 29/12//17.
