Sorry I haven't posted on your threads. I've been so busy with work this feels like my first spare minute.
Work is going mostly good though, a few issues but when isn't there?
The divorce is progressing and I'm having a bit of a disagreement about why I have to pay her costs. I'm regretting not filing on the basis of her adultery as although I justified not filing in reality I think I was trying to be 'nice' and its now biting me back.
Communication with XW is purely functional and a little fraught as we are slightly divergent on a few childcare things. I asked for separate appoints with our Daughters teacher conference as I really couldn't be bothered to try and coordinate with my XW and I don't want all the time taken up with my XWs questions.
And of course OM1 is ever present.
It does make me reflect that maybe I'm doing more to perpetuate the friction than I felt I was, so maybe I need to dwell on that. I also suspect that I feel there is friction more than she does.
I was thinking I might write to XW to ask more directly what we can do to make coparenting easier. I expect I would get either ignored or a list of my faults, but knowing there are issues and not talking about them led to my current circumstances.
I was chatting to someone yesterday who was very much of the view that my XW and I would reconcile but that if it didn't happen it was because fate meant me to meet someone else. She had a very positive outlook and I liked it, even if I don't agree with it.
I'm not even slightly religious but I do like that peacefulness that comes with just trusting something good will come.
In the shorter term I'm going to trust in an English victories tonight and all the the way through to the final.
Have a good weekend
Both mid 30s, 2 young kids BD 7sep14 XW moved on long ago, now living with OM1 D paperwork in progress
