What is said in the room stays in the room. The codependency has one of its main origins in your childhood and yes codependency is an issue that every single one of the 8 people in the room is either facing or has faced. That's why they are there for themselves, for their own recovery.

Whilst they search for bottles, you search for other evidence, the mode is different but the reason the same.

I think you will get benefit from the support, when that ceases consider reaching out to a codependency group, in the early months all 12 step groups will help, the core is self growth and development irrespective of the others disease, alcohol, drugs, gambling, porn, overeating etc......

Some of the readings are amazing and yes, I fully understand how they seem to speak directly to you. It does get easier to listen, and it's a safe place where IRL you can release your feelings. Additionally many alcoholics are cross addicted and have affairs, alcohol lowers inhibitition and drinkers are more prone to affairs.

These days although I no longer live with WH, the effects of his gambling have affected me so badly that I need my gam anon group. And I will for many years, that group is part of my higher power. I off load about my troubles every time I am n the group.

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Last edited by Vanilla; 09/26/15 06:29 AM.

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