It's time for a new thread for a new phase. I turned a corner in May and decided that the discomfort of continuing in this uncertain state is finally greater than the fear of facing the unknown future. Although my H had done nothing since he gave me his draft property settlement agreement in late 2012, i decided to carve out whatever time is needed to get this over with. We are shooting for one final joint tax filing and then finalizing divorce hopefully in early 2016. I feel good. I still dont know exactly why H left, but he's been emotionally completely gone for such a long time that I can confidently say I did everything I could and this marriage is over.
H is cooperating so far with the financial advisor who is helping us intelligently divide our assets. We both are motivated to avoid court.
When I arrived here in DB I was so sure I could save my marriage if I followed all the steps perfectly, but I was wrong. I did however save ME and I will never be a bitter victim no matter how the money turns out. I had many good times, and have two wonderful sons, and no regrets.
Since i'm back here journaling again I hope to reacquaint myself with the Surviving folks and appreciate this place more than I can say. It really got me through some bad times.
I'm pretty excited to feel free to date next year, and I've been following wii very carefully so I'll know how to make a good online dating profile.
Adinva 51, S20, S18 M24 total 6/15/11-12/1/12 From IDLY to H moving out 9/15/15-3/7/17 From negotiating SA to final D at age 50 5/8/17-now: New relationship with an old friend __ Happiness is a warm puppy.
