Another hijack! One of the things I did right (maybe the only thing) is that after BD I peeled myself off the floor to attend every social event, and family event with H. Especially his family events, where I got a few comments such as "I am surprised to see YOU here" because they all jumped on the divorce wagon. I refused to disappear because H was flaking out on me, I was still a wife and mother and not going away. Also I knew that if I wasn't there H would be having a field day dragging my name through the mud, which he still did but over the phone and email. In person though, everyone saw me holding my head up high and H sulking in the corner.
