Hi Mr Me, the thing about asking questions now is you're likely to get an answer you don't want to hear. Do you still love me? Not anymore? Don't you want to work on the M? No I don't. Because once BD has happened, the mind of the WAS is pretty much made up and is likely to stay that way - at least for some time yet. So, just now asking questions like you may want to probably isn't a good idea.

A much better idea is to let her be for now. Don't be cold, but don't initiate talk about the R. If she asks you anything, respond pleasantly - but beyond that don't offer much. Any questions can feel like pressure and that is just what isn't needed right now.

If you can start shifting your focus away from her and onto yourself and how you will learn from this and move forward, that will be best my friend.

Keep reading the 37 rules until you could recite them in your sleep. And any time you get an urge to 'do' something, ask yourself if that would fit with the rules. If it doesn't (eg: asking R questions) just let the urge to 'do something' pass.

Good luck to you :-)

T 13 M 7
Me 48 H 46
SS 15
BD 7.14 PA
D final 5.16 (H filed)

We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus