Answer to: "why didn't you hear it from ME?"

[Flight]

Ghost, I don't think there is a set answer. A shock of reality (loss as Sandi calls it) can bring a WS out of the fog, but not always. So can being the better option over time. I guess you look for little signs, which brings me back to my sitch. Maybe my sights are too high given the damage done and that even 8 months is not that long a time. I have only been DB'ing for a little over 2 months. Looking back I really believe I could have saved things in about 4 months had I known about DB.

I have a page of goals with the main ones at the top, but little interim goals underneath. One of my goals was that she would be able to stay in the same room with me when I walked in. She is doing that. Another was that we could sit down to eat together and we do that sometimes. She wouldn't sit and watch TV with me and we just did that last night.

Maybe I am looking for an instant switch to flip because we eat together or sit on the couch together because that is such a change. But then she goes to her room and I feel if I didn't have a reason to talk to her, she would never talk to me again. Hearing her call me by my name instead of "honey" is just a killer. I can't seem to get over it.