Thanks for checking in and for your offering your perspective. I appreciate it. How have you been lately? I will swing by your thread.
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while your comments have truth to them it also contains alot of your anger.
True, true. There is still a lot of anger. It is hard not to be angry when she/OM is still harassing me (he cruised past me last night again as I was out running and I received two more anonymous texts) and I am still under the same roof. I am venting. Why can't I save my magnanimity for when we are no longer living together.
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She achnowledged she's caused you great pain and I doubt many WW could even say that.
Correction, she is causing - present tense - continuing to cause. If someone is stepping on your foot, their apology means little until they actually get off your foot.
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You asked what would be the point and I think the point would be to begin to forgive, which only requires giving up your right to punish someone. I think deep down you still want to punish her and not achnowledging she attempted to appologize at all (even if you see it as a bad or fake apology) would be trying to punish.
You are spot on. But there are degrees. Not acknowledging the email is milder than writing a scathing reply (akin to what I wrote in my post). Again, I did reply last year and I don't feel like it helped me begin to forgive. Isn't there some value in biting my tongue if that is all I can muster at this stage?
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You don't know for sure how difficult it was for her to write that letter, so don't completely discount it.
I don't know how difficult it was. I don't know if she even actually wrote it.
I think I will get much more mileage from being more polite on a day-to-day basis.
