For me I feel diffusing the situation has been my best move. I don't think it's that big of a deal. I feel making it a big deal will make it a big deal. If I'm just like "meh, we're different people, of course we'll feel differently sometimes" then it kind of makes it less of a deal. At least that's the example I'm setting. Whereas for me to take issue with it and confront STBX directly or through L's, I feel this is making it bigger than it needs to be. Particularly when STBX appears to be trying to be respectful and just leaks a little criticism here and there. I have thought of what's best for the children in deciding this approach.
Zues, I'm the Queen Rug Sweeper, I've swept some very large things under the rug for about 20 years, and it's one thing I'm working on big-time. BUT, I agree with you here, to me the whole thing is just a variation in parenting styles, not a personal attack in either direction. I could have seen this whole thing play out with parents who were madly in love and committed to their M. In fact, I have seen it among my friends, Ws who complain that their Hs fed the kid hot dogs all weekend and didn't bathe them while they were away on a girls trip. The choice here is, do you criticize dad because he did it, or do you know it won't kill them and be grateful you got away on a little retreat? Your W chose the former, but it's not necessarily about you. Long way to say, I think you did fine, here.
Originally Posted By: Zues126
That's just bizarre. Were the two words "Hyper" and "Sensitive"? Sheesh...
I honestly have never had anything like this happen to me, ever. I suspect there are other issues going on there that have nothing to do with me. Better to find out now...
