Hey all- I had another great visit last night with the old H, this makes two in one week!!!
H e-mailed me to see if I'd send him a blank check so he could pay his rent. I said I would be in his area yesterday and could drop it by his place instead (since he e-mailed the day before he needed it!). So we decided I'd just drop off the envelope at the apartment office. Then yesterday he emails and says if I'd like to drop by his place in the evening after my errands I was welcome to. I said I'd see how things went.
So I ran my errands and decided to drop by for a few minutes. He was cooking dinner and asked if I was hungry? It seemed like it would have been a hassle, so I just said no big deal I'd get some food at home. So we were sitting around chatting about music and books and current events--- having a really great convo. He says, I could make you a bacon quesadilla (all excitedly)!! This was funny b/c we were joking around the other day about the strange bachelor food he'd been eating namely bacon quesadilla's. So, I said sure! I've noticed that he loves making food or drinks for me when I visit. He told me that a band we like was going to be in tucson (about an hour away) in a few weeks and that he was going to see if one of our mutual friends would go with him. I said oh that's great!! Then I mentioned another band we liked was also going to be there next week and that I was thinking about going. He said who with? I said probably alone. He said, alone?!! I said yeah, none of my friends were really people I'd like to go to a concert with. He said, yeah, I know what you mean, when I think of going to concerts I just think of going with you or with T (his best friend in florida). I just smiled and nodded but I was thinking, wow, huge score for me!!!
The convo continued to flow really well. He seems to be adopting a new 'whatever happens will be' attitude, he even said that 2 or 3 times last night. He said he is trying to stop controlling things and railing against things and just let things happen. I think this can only be a positive for our sitch.
He offered me an espresso and then jokingly said 'okay after this I'm kicking you out'. I laughed and agreed that I needed to get home. Then he started apologizing saying that this was the time of night he'd been going to bed and reading. I agreed that I loved going to bed early in the evening and reading for a few hours (gee, we just have more and more things in common everyday! hehe!!).
The night ended with a really huge hug (none of that one- arm crap that he likes to pull most of the time). I felt really good about this visit!! I feel like I'm getting to see more of the old H, and that our interactions continue to be really postive. Not quite sure where to go from here. Think I will just continue to stay the course and monitor for results...
