I agree... that the non-sexual affection is very necessary. I feel the worst in my R when that goes away. In His Needs, Her Needs it is listed as a woman's very important need and is important for a woman's sex drive. So it is good that you are communicating this to him. I'd keep at it.
T: 14 M: 12 D: 9 S: 6 BD: 2/18/15 (H affair) Working on marriage: 3/12/15-6/11/15 Broken Trust (my error): 6/11/15 H ring off: 7/6/15; Comm w/ OW confirmed 7/13/15 H wants to work on fixing things: 7/21/15