WTF is up with that?????? I cannot believe that he thought that it was an appropriate time for him to give you anything to do with D at all! To me it seems like he wanted to spoil your trip, how can you not think about it? Sort of like a form of control.
When my H and i where sep, any time he would bring up D i would tell him that i did not want a D, but if he persisted i would give it to him, but he had to do all the work for it.
He obviously loves you, but it seems to me that he is worried that your too happy! And that he has lost control of the sitch and this is his way of regaining it. This is only some stuff he has downloaded of the internet, a kind of do it yourself D, i wouldn't let him get away with it. If he wants it, then he is going to have to do it properly. Don't make it easy on him. Might be a good time to show him what a D would mean in reality. Detach, treat him as a friend and no more. Make yourself less available to him. Create a little mystery and see where that gets you.
I think the use of goals would be really good at this time. At least it gives you something tangible that you can work with and do. Don't forget that the only thing you can control is you, what your H does is up to him and the consequences of his actions are his as well.
Deep breathes and dbing your ass off. I would normally suggest going dark after a bomb like that and i think it can be very useful in letting them miss and appreciate you, so maybe a little shade of grey, such as allowing a day or so to go by before you reply to emails, phone messages, being the first to get of the phone etc. And when you do reply keep it light, friendly, but a little distant.
Might help for you. I found it helped the PMA and detaching process.
I hope you do have a good trip and remember that it's not the REAL D papers, it's only a diy version!
