Here's My Story...Need Guidance

[wiseman]

So just to clarify. I really shouldn't set a boundary of what time she should be out until? I feel like in a marriage there needs to be respect and being out until 3am isn't acceptable. I know it is controlling, but doesn't that help at least minimize potential contact time with the OM?

I am having a hard time just saying that I won't be in an open marriage and that she needs to break all contact, but then leave the door open for her to go out until whenever she feels like it.

Thoughts?