My first reaction was what a jerk. My next thought when I stopped to ponder why your H would do that is I think he was testing the waters to see how you really feel. My H thought I wanted a D. He thought because I appeared to be so happy and seemed to be moving on with my life that I wanted a D. He was too ashamed to tell me that he had changed his mind and did not want to put himself in a vulnerable position of saying he made a mistake and would I take him back. It took me telling him that I loved him and didn't want a D. He told me after we reconciled that he was positive that I wanted a D and did not know how to approach me because he thought I would laugh in his face and not want him back.
Carrie I think you need to tell your H you don't want a D. I think he was trying to see what your reaction would be when he gave you the D papers. More than likely he was hoping you would say you didn't want a D and then an R talk could start.
