I'm so sorry to here about the badly timed and thoughtless Bday gift. I was at a complete loss of words reading your post, my jaw fell on my keyboard.
And then I read TripleJ's post. I think he asks a lot of good questions, and gives a lot of good advice. You have been making progress w/ H, and you shouldn't let this stop you from making more. H didn't actually serve you with real papers, right? Just some forms he'd found. What are you going to choose to so with them? I researched and wrote the sep papers for my W and I, but that's where I stop. Any D papers or motion to file, etcetera: well that's all her--I can't currently imagine that I would help with that.
Use your vacation to take care of you!! Come back shiny and happy and ready to kick butt!
