Not only does your story and M feel instantly identifiable and relatable (if not nearly identical to my M), but we're even the same age and behave in the same ways of being naturally dependant rescuers.
I just started a new thread and I'm so thankful I found this one (your original post, more to the point), I only wish I had found it first.
I'm going to read through all of it when I get home tonight. I'm in the midst of separation and contemplating D for my own sake and it's so helpful to read someone like you talk about how that's not what we want but what we might have to ultimately accept, even when nobody else understands it (or they get false information from a STBX, for example).
