Here's My Story...Need Guidance

[wiseman]

Thank you Starsky for the advice. I will definitely take you up on the recommendation. I need to do the 180 and finally be assertive. Otherwise I will keep living in my current situation looking for answers and not finding them.

And RAI, I don't know for sure if this is what she is usually or always doing with the space, but I also feel like my actions pushed her to where she is now. I want to get her back, but need the A to stop all together. I am starting to understand that I can't force that and need to just back off.

Is it in my best interest to try and set the ground rule of her going out? Or will this just back fire more?