Here's My Story...Need Guidance

[wiseman]

I was going at ask that question too. If I should share the Divorce Remedy's book with her or not. I know any attempt to persuade her has failed, but I was wondering if this could be a light bulb moment. The first few chapters really hit home about the consequences of divorce. the ability for almost any marriage to be saved, stages of marriage and re-evaluating yourself.

Also, I just read through the pursuit and distance thread. I will grab this book as well and read it. I just want to clarify...I still should set boundaries and then stop pursuing all together, right? I feel like she needs to know that I have some rules that need to happen if we are going to even try.

Some of my rules were going to be:

-You are not going to disrespect me anymore

-You need to be honest and truthful from here on out

-You need to break off all contact with this guy

-I will not live in an open marriage

-You need to stop going out at night. If you need space, to find out what you want and who you are...do it here! (Willing to negotiate this one)

-I expect you to come to me with our marriage problems and not some guy when the going gets tough

I won't stand for you going out doing whatever you want to do whenever. You are my wife and it's not acceptable.

Are any of those too harsh given the current status of our marriage? Should I remove or alter some based on the "not pursuing"?

Thank you