have i been making mistakes too long part 6

[tkdmme]

hello,

Something that I haven't really talked about here is my S7 and the changes that I am seeing in him. Today I received a call from the school. This is the third time since BD. His teacher said that he was complaining that he was having trouble breathing. He told the teacher that he has asthma. He does not however have asthma. I was able to talk to him and calm him. He stayed at school today.

He got into a fight yesterday at soccer practice and has been very disrespectful lately. THis is not him at all. I don't know if this is a natural phase or if he is acting out because of the Sitch.

Also, he has been wetting the bed a lot lately. He did this when he was younger and I thought that he had out grown it. However he has stared again.

Has anyone here experienced anything like this with their kids? Do you guys think his behavior is normal 7 year old boy behavior or is it a result of the sitch. Of course I cant talk to the W about it. I told her early on that the sitch would cause the kids pain and she stated that she thought that they would be fine.

I would like to tell her that her actions were effecting the kids but I know this is not a good idea.

These are just a few examples of S7. My D12 and S10 have been fighting a lot and disrespecting each other. This is not normal for them either. They have always got along for the most part other than a fight occasionally.

I think it is a mix of reasons for the older kids. My D is 12 and is going through the natural changes for a girl her age but I cant help but think that the sitch is effecting them.