What about additional boundaries? For example, she keeps saying "she needs space" and "need's to figure it out", but hasn't done that by going out. She still has no idea what she wants. Again, it's probably because she is seeing someone. Should I tell her that she can have her space, but needs to be at home? Or maybe go out one day a week? I know this isn't going to stop her from doing whatever she wants to do and finding other times to see the OM (if this indeed happening).
Since I want to try and save our marriage, I know that if she is seeing someone, that needs to stop for there to ever be a chance. I will stop pursuing, but just want to understand if there is any other rules I should set to help increase the odds of her wanting to work on it and reduce the chance of her seeing him or at least start being honest.
Me-29 W-29 M 5 years (2010) Kids S-6 S-5 W Ring Off: 9/28/15 Filed: 10/12/15
